Ranging in Differences

Flawed is a judgement that condemns me.Where did this begin?Where did I get the idea?What do I need to do to no longer believe this?Deep shame permeates this tile and the internal dialogue and belief system is both very believable and very repetitive.There can be a heaviness that permeates and pervades activities to such an extent that it feels it’s best to stay away from others.The rejection of self has deepened to a feeling of disgust.Criticizing myself with real vitriol occurs.Talking about myself with extreme derision, contempt and disdain occurs at this level of Entrapment.If someone offers a perspective from higher tiles, this tile is so focused on the reprehensible nature of self that the positive cannot penetrate the feeling of being disgraceful and deplorable.What is the evidence for that?What can I do to show them that I am more than just this part that keeps me believing I have been a disgrace?I don’t feel anyone could possibly need me around here.Someone will need me in the future.In the meantime, I can help someone else feel noticed.Will anyone really care if I leave the team?There is someone I haven’t met yet who is waiting for me.If no one really cares if I’m here or not then there is no one left to please.I can please myself now!My life is like a series of dominoes lined up.When one gets knocked over, they are all knocked over.What evidence is there to this negative story?How do I create ‘one gets knocked over and I find a way to bounce back?At this level, a person has bought into the belief that life is meaningless and so he becomes a victim to the effects of negativity with no way of recontextualizing events and finding positive solutions.Support is critical at this level.Coming Up NextWhat is the way out of the trap of negativity?What is empowered leadership and how do I nurture it?What are the qualities that signal the end of ‘Ego’ and the emergence of integrity?The repetitive cycle of victim and perpetrator is seen for what it is and discarded in order to focus on the real need at hand.The outcome is less important than the means through which that outcome is arrived at through the efforts of the team.Tiles 60–63 are the place where a type of metamorphosis occurs.Old behaviours are seen for what they are and relinquished so that new ones begin to emerge.There can be a period of intense readjusting at tile 64 and time out may be required, or seeing a therapist or simply calling a meeting to clarify how the way forward will be different.The tiles of integrity open at the level Stepping In and they are centred around ‘us’ and ‘we’ rather than ‘I’ and ‘me’.The latter is left behind as a deeper truth about how to live starts to arrive.Repeating these truths and contemplating their wisdom begins to reshape the brain away from negative responses.The Level of Stepping InHere, you are motivated by improvement in yourself, others and the team.Finally, you can see just how much this is happening and how much people do not realize it, and if they do, many are not interested in doing anything about it.The level of awareness above 59 is packed with realizations, e.g.‘The people I dominate through Controlling in some way are more likely to become my enemy than someone I treat kindly’.For the veil of 59 to come down and to have access to 60 and above, you need to find another state, a different way of functioning, perceiving, interpreting and understanding.You may have known it intellectually before but could not get past your Ego behaviours to actually live it.In realizing truth, you have some kind of ‘shift’ in perception, a breakdown of old reasons that just don’t hold up any more.At ‘Not Buying In’, it’s a ‘no’, but on hearing the truth for the first time or fiftieth time, there arises the ‘maybe’ or even the ‘yes’.Leaving the Ego can feel unsettling initially and the Ego can call you back to ‘safety’ or that which is known.But in understanding some kind of truth, a small crack or opening has occurred for you and a new understanding has entered.You need not know what to do, only that you are going to do something different and with more authenticity.Somehow, the truth is getting in, regardless of how many times you may have heard it before.Something is being accepted or allowed in to penetrate past the Ego structure and into a more real part of yourself.You are adopting something that you couldn’t before.You may oscillate between realizing the truth and reverting back into Ego.And you can oscillate many times.There is a feeling of discovery where instead of trying to get something, you have discovered more of what you are going to have to become in order to live with integrity.Eventually you will witness the intuitive, magnetic qualities of this new mind.The exact outcome will probably not be known but instead of scepticism and fear ruling the moment, you step forward into the unknown.Empowering StatementWho can you ask for help to get some clarity on this?What does it take to get a truth you are not yet seeing?You can feel there is a pattern you are acting from.You need another pattern to create many new ripples.You feel you’re not the negative thoughts and you ask to be shown another way.You’re willing to learn a new approach that includes positive thoughts.Ready, 61There is a new truth to live by but so much can remain unknown.Stepping In takes courage.Below 60, we can rehearse and practise endlessly with an Ego Mind, trying to get it right and avoid getting it wrong.Here, at ready, we shift from right/wrong to doing the best we can but we may not know what our best is.Discovering how the new realized truth is to be actioned is part of the journey.You can be like a green apple that receives the new sunlight but needs a period of time to ripen or for maturation to occur.More ‘will’ is available to proceed in a new direction.This direction may be guided or totally unknown.It is about going forward, not back.The tentative, undeveloped ‘yes’ from realizing the truth is now nurtured.Below 60 we may be negative, especially below 30, as resistance towards living the new truth is encountered.A new eagerness to be different has arrived.An inner drive or momentum is present that is not enforced by negative consequences of punishment and retribution, nor is it based on Ego’s endless ideas of attention and promotion.It is a steady, underlying current that this is the ‘best way forward’.What will be will be – ‘Let me have a go!’ There is a new zeal, a goodwill and an aptitude to find your new self.In this state of readiness, you are up to taking on life without knowing how to make anything happen yet.The moment is more alive.There is more spirit.Ready is a state of consolidating the realizing truth and Wars - tic tac too flash game. stabilizing so as to enter tile 62, Preparing.You are a change maker rather than a change resistor.It feels good being responsible for your own choices.You’re able to see beyond the issue.You have the resources inside yourself to respond as required.Whatever is presented, you will consider it before responding.Preparing, 62The motivation that courage provides is coming alive within you.Preparing yourself to welcome changes sets up the environment for courage to enter.Now that you are ready and the inner drive is activated, it is time to prepare.Ready is not enough, we need a way forward to channel that readiness into.What action is required?What questions need answering?If it is to apply for a wonderful new job opportunity, you do what it takes to apply.If it is to have a courageous conversation with a colleague or your boss that you haven’t ever been able to have before, because you find it difficult to set boundaries, you set up the meeting.Preparing the way and setting up the external requirements to action the new truth overcomes what was once too challenging.What action is required?What questions need answering?You have 59 Entrapments to choose from, each one capable of restraining you by the nature of the stories at each tile.Where does that feeling live within you?Own it, identify with it, invite it to the surface as it may be very subconscious.Where did it come from?How does it seem to be serving you?What story does it have?The key here is to spend time experiencing or feeling the limitation/Entrapment and bringing it to the surface, with the intention of realizing more truth about the situation and getting ready for tile 63, releasing the old story.Empowering StatementLet’s gather some information and collect ideas.You need more, new context.Ask others how they see you.It was full of trial and error, let error be your teacher as a way forward.Everything that has happened has prepared you for this moment.Everything you do is grist to the mill of your unfolding growth and learning.It is showing you what needs to be released.Releasing, 63The internal story is ready to be discharged, transcended or overcome in some way.There is no prescriptive recipe as to how to release it as it depends on context with so many contributing variables and inputs.This will maximize the potential to arrive at a new place or truth.It may be incredibly simple, such as seeing what has entrapped you, identifying the tile of Entrapment and reading the ‘moving forward’ suggestions offered to overcome the Entrapment.Such a framework can help to dissolve the resistance to releasing it.Generally, the deeper and older the story or memory, the greater the potential for core pain to surface as the story may have been believed thousands of times.By being with a trained therapist, or another person above 60, things can be realized, readied, prepared, transcended or broken through.Or you can give it your best effort by yourself.There can be a lot of processing, pondering and remembering as the Entrapment is explored.This is not about forcing yourself to work it out, but sitting and witnessing the memories or feelings.They will open up for you to have the insight you need to release the story.There can be an unleashing of charge, e.g.The process of releasing may all happen in one session, or it may take repeated sessions to gradually strip back old patterns of behaviour.Having a visual of the Entrapment and adding sound, such as screaming or simply telling the story, really helps.Once the release is complete, you are very present and ripe for reorientation.In the preparing stage, you are forming an understanding of what it is that you are able to release to move deeper into letting go.Empowering StatementAllow the charge of old energies and patterns to move out of you accordingly.Allow this knowing that you are releasing, not growing the charge.The witness is present during the release.Own that what is coming out of you is yours to take responsibility for – you’re learning not to blame others.Letting go of attachment to agendas frees you to be part of other potentials.You are redirecting your willpower.Internally, it is now more about connecting to a more authentic self and to be that for others.You need a focus, a vision and a new story from which to operate.It is best to scan for the best way ahead.This is very individual and depends on a multitude of components that make up the context of your life.So, it is not about a right or wrong choice.That duality is Ego.The power associated with above 60 means you are attracting that which is required to help you to be the best version of yourself so you can help others.You are realigning and your awareness is going through a period of witnessing what it is like to be more conscious of how to do that.Answers will come to you as to how to act, behave and live at the higher tile.The Ego is on notice that the change is not just imminent, it is now happening.The Entrapment may return but your increased awareness realizes this and you reorientate as soon as you can.There is rebalancing and new guidance available.You begin to embody the qualities of the new Revelation that you are practising and as it takes hold, it begins to walk you through your life.This is much more than a feeling of Egotistical satisfaction, it is deeply moving as you learn to navigate this new psychological and physical experience.Life has a new focus and there has been a shift.You can redirect your energy and effort, repositioning yourself towards greater integrity.It can be a break from tradition, overcoming a negative habit, redesigning your approach or a total overhaul of your attitude.Empowering StatementPerhaps you can change one thing and see how that alters the outcome?How have other people done this differently?It feels good to get into other people’s worlds, value others, observe different ways of witnessing or seeing situations.What attributes make for a great mentor?Who can you ask to be yours?Positive, 65You start to focus on the upside while staying very aware of things that need to be addressed.There is a deeply moving experience that can accompany the inward reorientation.You now have a growing capacity to continue to expose and transcend Ego.It puts up a fight inside of you and attempts to undermine your newfound freedom or reorientation.It can be an enthusiasm to stay witnessing during challenges and to keep Stepping In when before you wouldn’t, or when others can’t, won’t or don’t know how you have a go.It can feel good to model this behaviour, not for personal attention but because others are learning by your example.Ego needs to endlessly tell others how to live, but positive and above just lives it for others to see.Feeling there is an advantage to living this kind of life, the enthusiasm may even bubble over into eagerness.The uplifting buoyancy that comes with positive can be contagious.It feels beneficial to everyone.It’s a great feeling to be acting from and being positive and you begin to know you can choose it more often.Living consciously with positivity means being more constructive, practical, productive, helpful, optimistic, pragmatic, assured, welcoming, decisive, supportive, expressive, resolute and involved.Below 60 is not an option any more.Keep learning, improving and transcending the lower tiles.You’re a capable person.You’re Stepping In and having a go, learning and growing all the time.Adventurous, 66Can life really be adventurous or even a game?Can a person view everything happening as an adventure?Life, even challenges, can and will become an ongoing adventure at this tile.The 30–59 Entrapments see life as full of things to get a hold of.So, what is the adventure?So, what is controlling you?You are being guided by intuition and positive reorientation.Take learning to walk, for example.Had we approached learning to walk through an adult Thinking Mind, we may not have bothered as an Entrapment could easily have held us back – ‘I might get hurt’, ‘No adventure there’, ‘Don’t try’, ‘Don’t walk’.But as a child, the body needed to develop and a child has the spirit of adventure when learning to walk.To crash, fall, bump and trip is all part of the adventure and builds the skills to be able to walk.The child just gets back up and keeps going.Then the adventure opens up into running and jumping.The latter is the spirit of finding out who you are by constantly having a go.If it doesn’t work out for you, then you have learned something and found out who you are not.If the lessons resonate with you, they can be incorporated into who you are.If you went with fear initially, you would never have discovered what you did.An adventurous outlook is a gateway.You may feel like the adventure is a journey or a quest.Make it an enterprise, a voyage, a happening, a paradigm shift.Empowering StatementEvery new person or situation you encounter is now a new mystery unfolding.Life is a game of endless opportunities to move from stuckness to increasing flow.Conviction, 67Positivity is great!The feeling of Stepping Into an adventure is wonderful.As it unfolds and the Entrapments look like reappearing, conviction will be necessary to stay on track.The latter arises because you can get what you want.This is a gift that you are developing.The assuredness or solidity of living above 60 is building.It is very difficult to be certain of anything and you are not trying to do that.You are finding your own truth as you do that.You are letting go of right/wrong and good/bad.Everything has the possibility of being an adventure from which you can learn something and grow.Instead of judging, you are observing and waiting for more context and how the next challenge will grow you.Condemning others is more and more difficult because you become convinced that is not who you are meant to be.